Knowing how your friends are

It just came to my mind one of the main reasons of my current state of happiness. Despite being very far from them (as I am currently travelling in Asia), I regularly talk to my closest friends, to get to know how they are and updating them on my overall (in&out) journey too.

This actually brought me a high load of contentment. Being able to tune in with the reality of the persons I love most on this earth. Being aware of what they are currently busy with, of their project, the pros and cons of it, their overall emotional state, related to the quality of their social interactions of the moment... If anyone was asking me about them, I could potentially make an answer that would be as accurate as if they were answering themselves.

Not only is this very beneficial to me and my own personal ecology (as a social being having interaction needs), but it also offers a great dose of oxygen in people's lives (from what I've been told).

Exchanging over this call or those voice notes "was like extracting myself from my routine, and threw myself in a very confidential space of kindness and approval - I feel considered and listenned in what's important for me now" one of my friend said.

I've got this other friend who use to dislike voice notes for some reasons (many people do and that's ok, there are many ways to stay in touch - I just personnally find it very handy). We appreciate eachother a lot, we just don't text very often, so we catch up when we get to see eachtother, once or twice a year.

This very same friend recently entered a period of break-up. The quality of our relationships for years led him to call me and download part of his emotional turmoil. Ever since, we've been voice messaging eachother on a regular basis, sharing updates from each side. I feel this got us closer together, with a sense of "being aware of what's going on in my friend's life". Without actually feeling the need to save him from this situation that he has to go through himself.

I can't stop from thinking that this mutually reciprocal consideration is one of the best gift we can give to ourself and to the humans we love. It's even a way of telling them we do. Wether around a coffee, call, text, voice note or any other way offered by our modern societies. Reaching out is equivalent of saying "you mean to me".

Who doesn't want to receive that ?

Who is the person that you wish you heard from today ?

Which of your relationships you feel like nourishing today ?

Now grab that phone, and tap onto this text/call/voice app that will get you to offer Love today, to one or several persons of your warm-hearted environment.

Just because there isn't anything more powerful (yet pretty simple) that we can offer right now to both ourselves and our loved ones at once.

Knowing how our friends are.

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